When you enter a synagogue or a church, you know it is one that is prayed in, because it has the odor of sanctity about it. You also can tell when you’ve entered a happy home — there’s something in the atmosphere. If there has been continual fighting, even the smiles that are put on for you won’t fool you. And so the pain must be addressed.

Archbishop Desmond Tutu, as quoted in Colin Greer, Without Memory, There Is No Healing; Without Forgiveness, There Is No Future, Parade, January 11, 1998, 6.